You have to purposefully seek out a good time with one another, and you cannot stop learning about one another. So how can you purposefully seek out your spouse? It can simply be the two of you going for a drive, and then picking up ice cream. It can be the two of you laying out on the couch and picking a movie together, sharing popcorn and an ice tea!
As most of y’all know, Josh and I live on a strict budget, so we definitely have to get creative with how to mix things up. We also have to get creative on how to continue to pursue and learn about one another. One way we like to continue to learn about one another is we lay in bed and ask how we can pray for one another, and how personally each one of us is doing. This allows us to see a glimpse into what bothers one another, how we are struggling, how we are gaining victory in certain areas, or it shows us how we can help out one another! It allows us to continue to grow as one together, and also forces us to be vulnerable with one another!
One way we like to spend time together, it’s simple, but we put Emma to bed and then we catch up on our shows. It’s a cheap way to snuggle and spend some time together.
Never get too old
In your relationship with your spouse in order to have fun you cannot get to serious, its okay to poke fun at one anther! I totally understand how it feels to come home after a long day, and see the house a wreck, it will take everything within you not to get overwhelmed, stressed, and upset. We cannot allow our to do list to run our lives that we forget how to enjoy the sweet, silly moments with our spouse. Those are the moments you never get back!
My relationship with Josh is partly founded on humor and making fun of one another! One, it’s just who we are as individuals, we love to make others laugh so naturally that seeps into our marriage. His mother always told him ” be a man, but never grow up”. I love that saying, if you continue to bring silliness, laughter, joy, and joking into your marriage, it is a sure way to not let the things of our busy days take hold of us!
Friends we have to remove distractions from our family time, and even more so our husband and wife time, that’s right I said EVEN MORE SO!! As husband and wife we are the leaders of our families and if we as a unit do not have our distractions set aside, that will evident in our family time. Don’t misread me, I’m not saying that as couples we will have it all together all the time. No one has it all together! Yet that does not mean we don’t work hard for intentional family time and intentional husband and wife time!
When I say remove the distractions I mean, whatever steals your time from your spouse. So is that your time on social media, do you lay in bed side by side both on your phones, do you turn on the television and never say a word to one another, do you come home and continue to work on your business? Those things are not bad, but they should never come before your God nor your spouse! I’m sure if you just stopped to think about what steals your time from your spouse you will definitely come up with something!
Ladies we have to continually date our husband, and like I said earlier have fun and get creative. Your dates do not have to be a five-star dinner with a movie. I encourage you to treat yourselves, but when the budget does not allow it, get together with another couple and go out together!
Double dating is such a blast. It’s fun and it’s special, and it’s a way for you to be intentional with your friends! Once lives starts happening it can be hard to find time for you and your spouse to get away! Even more so for the two of you to find time to hang out with friends, but when you go on a double date you will be doing both! Double dates are a great way to have some added fun to your sweet marriage!
Do not be embarrassed to show a little PDA
I totally understand that physical touch is not everyone’s love language (not too sure what your love language is, check it here), but that does not mean that you can’t give your spouse a little loving! Now I am not talking about making out in public, yuck no! I am talking about holding his hand in public, hold his waist while you’re walking through an event. Maybe give him a kiss each time you come together after y’all been apart.
Nothing makes me feel more special, than when Joshua kisses my check or forehead in public. It’s okay for others around you to know how special you are to one another! You should never be embarrassed to show affection towards your spouse it’s sweet, and if done appropriately it can become infectious!
How do you and your spouse add fun to your marriage?