Gosh ladies if you are here reading this today, I want you to know that we do not have to be burdened down by insecurity anymore. As we walk through this life, we can stand victorious over our struggle of insecurity because of what Christ did on that cross some 2,000 years ago! All we have to do is FIGHT, and KNOW that victory is ours in the LORD! I have had to wage war with this struggle for the past 8 years! It is a struggle God has equipped me to fight, but it is a struggle I have to die to every single day!
Last year I shared a post on insecurity in relationships and I had no idea how hurt many of you were by this struggle. Most of us, if not all, are battling insecurity for a reason different than someone elses. That is how Satan keeps his thumb on us, we start to believe that there is no one who will understand. Truth is God does, and He cares deeply to rid you of this joy stealing struggle. First, you must face the fact that you cannot overcome this struggle on your own! Second, you have to be willing to fight every single insecure thought that comes into your head, IMMEDIATELY!
1 // Daily dig into God’s Word. The only way we can stand against the devil’s schemes is by knowing truth. We cannot fight off the lies if we don’t know what God says about us. 2 Timothy 3:16 tells us, that “all scripture is breathed out by God and is profitable for teaching, rebuke, corrections, training, and righteousness.” Getting into scripture will equip us to rebuke lies, it will correct our understanding of life, and it will train us so we won’t fall into Satan’s traps.
2 // Allow yourself to be discipled. 2 Timothy 2:2 , tells us, “entrust faithful men, who will be able to teach others.” We can’t do it all on our own. This is huge, having an older wiser woman in your life who knows your struggle, allows you to have someone present that you can press into. And if you allow her wisdom to help you, you and her now stand together to fight.
3 // Do not dwell. Ask God to make you conscience of your thoughts. He tells us this in 2 Corinthians, this is one memory verse I would advise to learn. Use it and use it, and then use it again! Being able to control your thoughts will allow you to see through the lies. Satan cannot get to you if you can see the lie coming from a mile away. There will be times you fall, but as soon as you recognize that you’re dwelling on this insecurity, hand it over to God and get rid of the thought!
4 // Memorize God’s Word, use the sword God gave you. This was a game changer!! Once I started using scripture to fight the lies, I had made up in my head, fighting the battle was so much easier! God had provided truth, and now I am equipped to fight the devil’s schemes! I would encourage you to find specific verses that speak to you and to your struggle, and then memorize them. By doing so you are gearing yourself up to fight!
5 // Gain an understanding on why this is your struggle, where did it derive from? This is a big one ladies. This step requires you to search within, and might force you to face your past. You can move forward with this struggle if you don’t know why it is there in the first place. You can’t allow God to start breaking down the strongholds Satan has over you if you don’t even know where he has placed those strongholds. Once you go back and truly start to understand why you have this struggle, God can truly start to heal you from this pain.
6 // Do not force your struggle on others. This was so hard when I was dating Joshua! And if I’m not careful, I can still do it today. Our struggles can often derive from other people, by either things they have done to us. Or maybe because of situations they have put us through, but regardless, we cannot CONTINUE to blame this struggle on them.